Love is My Religion

Love is my religion.
But for years, my temple was empty.

I was good at work. I could achieve.
But when it came to love, I struggled.

I didn’t have my first relationship until I was 26.
Not because I didn’t want love—
but because I didn’t trust it.

How could I?

• At 9 months, I was sent to live with my grandparents.

• At 8, my mother left again.

• At 9, I was shipped to boarding school.

• At 17, I crossed oceans alone.

Each departure etched the same belief:
the feminine will always leave.

So when I finally did open my heart,
I carried the weight of every goodbye.
I didn’t just want love—
I needed it.

My love wasn’t devotion.
It was desperation.
Intensity. Pressure. Clinging.

I wasn’t loving her.
I was chasing the mother who never came back.

The Cost

Intensity without intimacy is violence.
Not always physical, but energetic.

It crushes freedom.
It corrodes trust.

And when a woman did stay, I clung to her, creating codependency.

The damage didn’t stop with women—
I lost more than intimacy.
I lost presence.
I lost self-respect.
I lost the spine of trust that makes a man safe to follow—
in love and in life.

When you don’t face your ghosts,
you don’t just lose women—
you lose years of your mission,
your power,
your peace.

The Lesson

What I’ve learned is simple:
If love is your religion,
you must first build the temple within.

That means:

• Discipline in caring for yourself.

• Speaking truth with kindness.

• Regulating your fire so it fuels you, not burns others.

Give your intensity inward before you offer it outward.
Only then does love become devotion—
a gift instead of a demand.

This is why I coach men through heartbreak.
Because heartbreak isn’t about the woman who left.
It’s about the boy inside who was never chosen.

And when you choose him—
when you love him first—
everything changes.

You stop mistaking intensity for intimacy.
You start leading with love.

Remember This

Love doesn’t begin when she stays.
Love begins when you stop abandoning yourself.

👉 I don’t help men get women back.
I help men get themselves back.

If this strikes you, stop pretending you can carry it alone.
Sit with me in the fire.

Let’s turn heartbreak into initiation,
and longing into leadership.